So while I was searching through YouTube on strategic planning for one my MBA papers, I stumbled across one of Simon Sinek’s interviews about leadership and how he related it to how a woman falls in love with her husband and he mentioned about the little things. I thought, “Hmm, what little things would make me fall in love with a person?” Well it turned out that I have alot to say on the topic, lol 😂. Good stuff. Hope you guys enjoy reading it as much as I enjoyed writing it!! 😊 XO, A
We haven’t met yet, or we have but we don’t see each other that way yet, but I’d like to let you know that I am so happy that I love you.
I’d like to let you know, it wasn’t the flowers that got me. Or the chocolates and the random gifts. Or your dorky smile. Or your cuddable frame. Or your dad jokes. Nevertheless, I appreciate all those.
It was the way you looked at me when we talked. The way you listened when I spoke. How you remember things that I forgot I told you about. The way you spoke about the mundane things in life with such vigor like it was your greatest day yet. The way you taught me things I never knew without making me feel like a total dumdum.
It was when my strong personality did not faze you but rather attract you because you knew the challenge was getting me to like you beyond flirting and bravado. You knew I didn’t know how to play games and I was a horrible flirt but you still managed, that got me.
It was the little things you do when we’re around friends and family. When you’d put your hand on my back when you know I’m being my ill-humoured self from all the teasing, letting me know you got me. It was you getting along so well with my family going so far as to hang out with them even without me. And on gatherings, when you’d squeeze my hand under the table while everyone is having a great time just because.
It is also the little things you do when we’re together, just us. When you would tell me you were going to be late because you know how I feel about getting stood up. Or when you’d very much ask to reschedule if you knew I would be waiting too long for you. You know how much I value time and I love that you respect that.
When you’d let me go through doors first or look back if you happen to be far ahead to see I haven’t gotten myself lost in the mall we always go to. When you’d save the last piece of steak because you know I’m a carnivore. Or when you know to warn me that I can’t have eggs because I’m allergic. That you’d gladly have a second serving of egg if I’m stubborn and have to order a meal with egg on it. When you hold my hand or put your arm around my shoulder even if you know so well I am most likely sweaty already, but you still do.
It was also our bad days. When we’d disagree on things and you’d be the better man to make sure we end the discussion like adults. When I have had a bad day and take it out on you and you so calmly make me realise that that isn’t how I should treat the people I love. It was on rough days when you stepped up to show that you still choose to love me even if you were annoyed, that got me.
It was on days when we could not meet and you know I’m a workaholic. That you’d message to ask if I was home and send encouragement on extra challenging days. When you had the best advice when I was stumped, it was then I realised I always wanted to hear your take on things because I always found it refreshing.
When we couldn’t bear not to see each other, that you would wait for me on the bar with a drink, watching your favorite sport on TV just like dad. Then we’d have late dinner, catch up with alot of yawning in between because we both had a long day but still enjoy each other’s company.
It was the most boring days we had together that got me. When we had spent so much time together we ran out of stuff to say that we just sat there, lay there, shoulders touching enjoying the silence. And it was alright. Those were the days I realised I felt safe with you.
You got me not because of your charm, humor, good looks or accomplishments. You got me because you have a big heart and you taught me that kindness is possible even in the little things.
You knew if I was asked whom I would choose between the man who loves me or the man I love – I’d always choose the man who loves me that I can come to love. I’m glad it was you.
With Lots of Love,