The X-factor, really?

I’m technically supposed to study for a major quiz tomorrow and I’m here writing about this topic that’s been floating over my head for  quite some time now. I was just waiting for the right moment to talk about it. And now I have – perfect timing, really.

So I was waiting with a friend of mine down the hallway at school when said friend leaned toward me and whispered, “See that girl who looks like a guy?” I nod my head acknowledging that I do see her. She was wearing jeans, gray trainers, a loose t-shirt, a sports watch and was carrying a backpack. I’ve seen that girl a couple times around campus and she seemed harmless so I was wondering what this friend of mine was going to say. Then said friend continues, “Would you believe that she has a boyfriend?” My initial reaction was “mhmm…” because I’ve seen this girl holding hands with a guy a couple of times around campus and it wasn’t that I gave a damn about it (haha. indifferent as always). Anyway, when I finally registered what and how my friend said it, I said  ”Wait, hold up? What’s the matter that she has a boyfriend?” She then goes, “Yeah, well, look at her. She looks like a guy.”

Frankly, this is the first time I’ve ever had a conversation like this with another human being. I mean, I did have some thoughts before on why the ugliest men in the world ended up with the hottest chicks and the short non-hot chicks ended up with the tall hunky men.  Or why the least in the face value department end up being in a relationship. But I never pondered so much about it until now. Well, at that moment when friend said that sort of offending line (well, I myself have been teased to have looked like a guy, to have acted like a guy, in fact), I began racking my brain for something to say. I ended up with an, “Uhm, well, hmm… It’s not always the looks, you see.” Well it isn’t all the time, is it?

Then during dinner, the family had ended up in one of those ‘How did mom end up with dad?’ conversations. Pretty funny really. Anyway, since we were already on that topic, I kinda slipped that floating question to mom. “What did you see in dad, ma?” And I was making this sour face jokingly pertaining to the fact that he was nowhere near the looks of Bruce Willis. Dad loved comparing his looks to that guy. And my mom cracked up until she was beet red. But I was kinda getting serious with the question in between the giggles. I even asked her, “What did Hayden Kho see in Belo?” Well, she said, “It’s not the looks really. There are some men who are attracted to women because of a certain attribute – an X-factor. And then there are some who just gravitate to each other like there’s some magnetic attraction between them.”

And then dad cracks up a joke of how mom went weak-kneed the first time she saw him. Mhmm…

In my case, I’ve never been in a relationship or anything close to it so I don’t have much of an opinion. HEHE. I’m happy being single, having happy crushes at school and swooning over overrated and cheesy romantic novels. I think I’ll go show off my X-factor after I get my first paycheck.

Yeah, I’d like to hear your  thoughts. Post a comment, share your story!

XO

What usually happens to me :>

Thought of the Day: 14 January 2012

And the fox said to the little prince: men have forgotten this truth, but you must not forget it. You become responsible, forever, for what you have tamed.

-Antoine de Saint-Exupery, author and aviator (1900-1945)

Thought of the Day: 8 January 2012

If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart.

-Nelson Mandela, activist, South African president, Nobel laureate (b. 1918)

it’s something you can’t control

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Hah! Bulls-eye!

The Prince Turned Toad

Well, he doesn’t exactly look like a toad. Total opposite in fact. Actually, I think he’s getting more handsome everytime I see him. However, I am glad to say that that sinking feeling, toe curling effect that he’s had on me since high school has, finally, gone!

Finally after four years! I managed to get over my crush on him. I know, ang tagal. It’s been too long and I barely knew the guy. But it still puzzles me how I stayed attracted to him for so long. Still am, just no more tingly feelings. Bah, blame it on the hormones! I’m still a teenager now, aren’t I?

And because of that realization (that took me long enough), I genuinely enjoyed the party tonight. No more bothering to steal glances or attempt any conversation. No more tummy knots and nervous smiles. It’s kinda refreshing, really. Now, I feel totally single and available! Take that ‘puppy love’! HAHAHA!

On other news, I totally dig my outfit tonight. Mom says I look like Marilyn Monroe. I said, I look like her when she’s 50. You know, with the menopausal double-chin and flabby arms. And then, I found out about an old friend of mine. I was totally stoked at first but then it was so cute that I couldn’t help but be really happy for that friend of mine. He practically was radiating good vibes that even I felt a mood boost going on.

Great night. Good times. What more can you ask for?

XO

Thought of the Day: 3 January 2012

That action is best which accomplishes the greatest happiness for the greatest numbers.

 

Francis Hutcheson, philosopher (1694-1746) 

Flashback 2011: In an hour and 45 minutes

I’ve been staring at the screen for quite some time now thinking of a catchy opening for my year end blog post. So far, nothing has crossed my mind. Though, if you ask me how my 2011 was, I’d say alot of things. So much, in fact, that I may not finish this in an hour and 45 minutes. I believe that you might even want an ice cold beer in hand while you read everything I’m about to say.

Don’t worry, I’m not going to dwell much on the bad stuff – Like the fact that I arrived in Manila to find out that our dog, Stacy, got lost because somebody left the gate open or the fact that I got my first 1.5 in uni. Those are the stuff that I’d rather discuss when I’m up for the crying while writing technique. Now, however, I’m gonna share the 11 most memorable things I learned this 2011 starting from the most recent.

1. EAT before you go and prepare for Media Noche (Midnight Meal): A few years ago, I didn’t enjoy welcoming the New Year because of a massive stomach ache. I missed a meal because we were preparing for the Media Noche and my tummy kinda went ballistic when I finally ate something. I learned my lesson this year. Definitely ate on leftover Christmas ham before cooking for tonight’s lasagna.
2. CURLY is not UGLY: I finally embraced my natural curls with the help of some mousse. Everybody’s been telling me to get a rebond and I’ve been declining ever since I finally understood how to manage my hair. The secret: never comb nor shampoo! I know it sounds gross but it works. Though, I can’t really give up on shampooing because I commute. So, I try to limit it to thrice a week.
3. GRADES aren’t everything: I’ve been convincing myself for quite some time that grades aren’t everything. Well, they kind of are when you’re looking for a job but when it’s about socializing and meeting and keeping friends, the numbers don’t matter.
4. There’s a reason why GOD gave us TWO EARS: Ever since I turned 18 and my parents got a year older, hearing them rant became a frequent feat here at home. So, instead of me stressing out because they’re menopausal and andropausal tendencies arise, I hear them out onone ear and let the rest out of the other.
5. I have a secret love for DANCING: Okay, so it’s not much of a secret anymore. I enjoy dancing as much as I enjoy eating and talking crass but then that doesn’t mean I’m not so shy about it. I’m totally shy. It’s sort of my own form of meditation. Ha! Well, if you must know, it was those Zumba videos that made me admit it.
6. I’ve managed to avoid BEER all YEAR! I learned that it takes alot of determination to avoid drinking beer especially if your entire family’s master beer drinkers. When I say master beer drinkers, they can drink half a case and still drive like a sober man. But still, I stick to my word: I’ll drink any other alcoholic beverage but BEER! Managed to avoid them last night . Dancing sober is waaay better.
7. A trip to the DOCTOR’S scares the hell out of me: Ever since that fainting incident, I’ve been visiting the doctor more frequently this year. And I got to tell you, my doctor scares the hell out of me. For some reason, her word seems like law. (And I finally got my cervical vaccine shot). On my last check up, my usual 100/70 BP became a 100/80. HAHAHA! I hate being nervous.
8. I’m going back to my old habit of sleeping LESS: Every time midterms come ’round, I cut off my sleeping hours to an average of 5. Sucks really. And I think it’s a habit that I should definitely change. It’ll take time, but I think I can do it!
9. FACEBOOK causes alot of trouble: I learned that facebook taught me to procrastinate, sleep less and stalk more. HAHAHA! Facebook is bad for my health and I should cut down on my hours. ) Now why does this sound like a New Year’s Resolution?
10. LUCK comes with TIMING: totally true! The best things happen at the right time. And the worst things always happen at the wrong time (that’s why it’s the worst). Anyway, I just wanted to throw that out. Kind of applied in alot of things this year.
11. GREETING IS IMPORTANT. I learned that this is the best way to avoid having to buy your friends gifts. HAHAHHA! I sound so mean. But really, when you’re in college and all your friends are scattered everywhere, it’s kinda hard to catch them in person and give a gift. So the best way to share the Holiday Spirit? greet them on the holidays!

Well, that was 2011 for me. And here are some of the best pictures of 2011.

Giant pizza! Nomnom

Me and my new cousin!

Mika's 18th

My 18th.

With my TFs!

My first UAAP game

Happy Holidays, everyone!

Happy Holidays everyone!

Hope you enjoyed yours because I’m currently enjoying mine. For some reason, I am totally digging the cold weather here in Bacolod.  It’s been raining here almost the whole day :>

Anyway, I’ve got lots of alone time for me this break. All my cousins are out (shoutout to all those in Cebu!) while some are stuck at their homes doing chores (hehehe). So I’m here forced to reflect by myself because I definitely have to get back on track. And I had another bad dream about it. But that’s for another post.

I’m looking forward to the next few days to relax as much as possible. Ahh, the wind’s literally blowing in my face right now. Well, ’til my next post.

XO

Gotta Believe in Magic…NOT

Didn’t get my happy term-ending. Professor didn’t raise my grade by 0.5 so buh-bye unlimited absences. Felt so depressed this afternoon plus the fact that taft was flooded when I went out of campus. So yeah, sucky afternoon. So much for that line: nagmamagic yan! DI ka babagsak niyan. Hmpf.

Though, I got to say, I’m very lucky to have engineers for parents. They can relate with my situation. And they managed to crack some jokes about it. Yeah, easy for them to say because they have stable jobs and kick-ass resumes. Then they fired out so much tips (which they should’ve said during the term, not after I’m wallowing in my sorrows) that I think will be really helpful in the coming terms. So much so, I didn’t receive any of those ‘I-told-you-so’ remarks.

Anyway, now that I must accept my fate, I am happy to announce that I am thrilled to meet Shannon, Iman and Inna tomorrow for lunch! I haven’t seen Shannon in more than 2 years now so I’m pretty much excited. Too excited in fact that I had to ask Shannon what to wear. Kala mo date e. )

So basically, tomorrow until new year’s will be very busy days for me – which I think is great. Anything to keep my mind off misery this Christmas. I want to enjoy the holidays!

XO